How to propose?

Talking about proposing a marriage, people usually think of romance classic movie scene with man kneeing down on one knee in front of his love one, holding a beautiful ring or flower and looking into her eyes and with said, "Will you marry me?". The gal, so touched with tears running down, and said," I do." The background beautiful music will start playing......

In real life, does this happen? Really depends. Not every man are romantic (The one I am with now is definately not ). If you want to create a memorable and delightful experience for your love one, no idea what you should do. Here are some guidelines.

Things you need:
a plan
a location
an engagement ring
flowers
lots of love

Ideas to propose:
in a restaurant
on a park bench
on sunset beach
at the place where you first meet
while traveling (find a very romantic scenary - Nigara Falls)
more creative ways:
hide ring in a bouquet of flowers
tie ring to a kite string
in a box of chocolates
put an ad in a newspaper
design a crossword puzzle
via email
via sms
on the web
while on airplane

If you any other interesting propose ideas, you are welcome to share with us via email or by putting in the below comments

Staying with in-laws or Buying a House?

If you are an Asian, you must accept that when you get married, you are not only marry your spouse, but you are marrying into the family. So after marriage, there is a possibility you are staying with your in-laws. In-laws come in different types. Some are supportive and respect the marital boundaries. Some act like it is your duty to treat them nice and serve their needs.

If you have a choice, which would you choose, staying with in-laws or buying a house? That's really individual preferences I guess and how close are you relationship with your in-laws.

If you have a very close relationship with your in-laws, and you have a tight financial, probably staying with in-laws is the best option. You don't need to come out a big lump sum of money to buy a house. You also save money on others expenses by sharing electrical and water bills, meal, etc.

However, if you are looking for a living area among two of you and your financial is good, you could possibly get a house. However, you need to understand beside putting downpayment for the house and paying housing loan by monthly installment, you will have a lot of other expenses such as electrical bill, water bill, tv cable bill, phone bill, internet bill, etc.

If your relationship with your in-laws are not that close, you might need to consider to get a house. Chinese idiom said, "To meet is fine, To stay together is difficult". If you and your in-laws has your own way of lifestyle which are totally opposite, eg. you like your house to be simple and tidy, yet your in-laws like to keep things that full of memories, it's better not to stay in the same house. It most likely will end up in quarrel and this definately put your spouse into miserable situation. I heard a lot from others, because of in-laws relationship problem, eventually the couples broke up.

Work out the best option between you and your spouse. A good and healthy marriage requires effort and team work. Beside that, a strong happy family need a good relationship between all the members, including your in-laws, brothers and sisters.

A new Chapter of Life - Marriage

A and I meet in 2003. After three wonderful years of dating, we finally decided to tie knot. A didn't give me any romantic proposal, it was very natural process and both of us know "It's time." Although most of the times I don't really mind whether there was any romantic proposal, but there is a tiny voice in my heart always would hope to have "a romantic moment in life".

If you are a guy reading this, do bare in mind, gals are more emotional and romantic than guys - once a while do give them a warm surprise (doesn't mean it has to be grand or expensive act). A tiny act - waiting for her to knock off from work outside her office without telling her, would also warm her. She looks at you with surprise and smiles happily.

Today our society are complicated, competitive and stressful. Are you both ready for marriage?
This is a very important question. Marriage always give an impression of beautiful, happy and merry pictures of couples. Couples need to know marriage is not just love between two persons. It's a big responsibility. It involves a lot of things - financially, emotionally, mentally........ picture yourselves eventually settling down with the perfect partner and build a strong and wonderful married life together and even create a family. There is a lot more to marriage besides the romance and love you feel for one another. A good and healthy marriage requires effort and team work. The both of you will enter the marriage together and therefore will have to continue to precede the marriage together.....Do spent some time to think about it and be prepared if you both really taking one step into new chapter of life.

There are few websites online provide some quiz (use only as reference, how accurate the tests, no one exactly knows) :
http://www.blogthings.com/areyoureadyformarriagequiz/; http://ynr.blogthings.com/areyoureadytogetmarriedquiz/; http://www.love-sessions.com/relationship_test.htm; http://www.testcafe.com/mar/
Often you hear this question being asked to a couple: What makes this person the one? usually your first answer will be because you love him or her. This is not the question. The question is "What makes this person, out of all the other relationships you have been in, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?" It is important to make a mental list on this, to prevent yourself from entering a marriage for the wrong reasons. The often mistake people makes is giving a wrong reason to marry: marrying because he/she feels that time is running out. Do not pressure yourself or allow others to pressure you with the idea that you are getting old and may never have another opportunity to get married.
The every first pressure after deciding to get married will come from your both financial. Being married is not like dating where you cover the dinner bill or pay for the movie tickets. It involves new and more expensive bills. This is a subject you should discuss with your partner so that there are no unpleasant surprises later. Whether the both of you work or one of you stays at home, it is essential that you know ahead of time of how you plan to handle all financial challenges, including insurances and emergencies.
These are only some questions you definately need to find out your answer to before getting married. You should never involve yourself until you are truely ready for it.